Figuring out that your mother needs to move into a nursing home is difficult on everybody. Often, deciding on the best nursing home for your budget and your mother’s needs is a multi-month process.
As a result, if your mother states that she does not like her nursing home it can be heartbreaking. However, you should always do your due diligence before making accusations or moving your mother. Particularly, take the time to independently evaluate common complaints like roommate conflicts and food-related issues.
In the event that your mother and her roommate do not get along at all, a reputable nursing home will try and make a roommate swap if at all possible. However, keep in mind that if your mother has lived on her own for several years, adjusting to any roommate, no matter who it is, may be a major adjustment.
Encourage your mother to try and work things out with her roommate at first brush. It is possible that the differences are irreconcilable, but unless you can afford a single room your mother will have to have a roommate of some sort.
Particularly if your mother is a picky eater or likes specific ethnic cuisines, it is unlikely that even the best nursing home food will be up to her standards. Consider trying to visit the nursing home once or twice a week to eat dinner with your mother. This will allow you to ensure that the food is nutritious and adequate. It will also help your mother adjust: it may be less about the food at the nursing home, and more about the company.