Knowing that if something happens to you, your children have loving and committed people to parent them can bring you peace of mind. Finding people who are the right fit to take on such a serious responsibility can cause some angst.
When you know some strategies for naming guardians, you may feel more confident about your ability to make the right selection.
Family dynamic and values
While you may want grandparents to step in if you become incapacitated, this decision may not have the most optimal outcome depending on the ages of your parents. Similarly, according to U.S. News, you cannot expect godparents to legally assume guardianship unless you have specifically requested this in a formal legal document.
One option to consider is to ask close family friends to assume guardianship. Often, you will form relationships with like-minded parents whose family dynamics and values mirror those of your own family. Knowing that your children will most likely already have a relationship with their guardians can also bring you comfort and reassurance.
Flexibility and alternatives
Changes to your children’s needs, a move across state lines, or even a breakdown in the relationship you have with the people you named as guardians, are all reasons you may need to modify your decision. When you name guardians, add enough flexibility so that you can modify your decision as needed. You should also name a backup guardian for added security.
Prior to naming a guardian, verify the person’s willingness and ability to provide for the needs of your children. With provisions in place, you may feel less concerned about the well-being of your children in an emergency situation.